How to make your divorce and post-decree life easier

If you’re going through a divorce, getting unsolicited advice is just part of the process. You may get tired of random recommendations and opinions, but it is best to treat them as well wishes and draw your own conclusions. After all, every divorce is different, and chances are that the people who are giving you advice do not know everything you are dealing with.

With that said, there are some seminal pieces of advice that go a long way towards making the divorce process easier. In fact, the adages in this post may neutralize post-decree problems.

process easier. In fact, the adages in this post may neutralize post-decree problems.

Learn to co-parent at all costs – This may seem easier said than done when you are dealing with someone who is childish and vindictive, but it has to be done for the benefit of the children. Kids hate being caught in the middle of warring parents and family court judges expect parent to put their differences aside for the benefit of the children.

Avoid the tit-for-tat battles – You probably divorced your spouse because of their insatiable need to be right, to have the last word, or to keep score over who was to blame for the ills of the relationship. In a post-decree life, these battles must be avoided. It doesn’t matter who was late, or who is responsible for their share of a dental bill. Just know that kids need certain things and if you can’t rely on your ex, find another way.

Don’t use kids as pawns or spies – Kids will only be these things because they want to please you. But make no mistake, they do not want to be caught in the middle.

We hope our readers can benefit from this post, and we welcome them to contact us with questions.

Source: HuffingtonPost.com “11 things all divorcees need to hear,” Brittany Wong, May 21, 2014