Questions to ask before the divorce: Part 1

Before a person begins divorce proceedings, they often spend weeks, months and even years pondering questions about their marriage and why it has come apart. The search for answers is for many an essential part of the emotional process of ending a relationship they thought would last forever.

A recent article outlined some of the questions people pondering divorce ought to ask themselves before contacting a Clark County family law attorney. The questions were posed by a financial adviser, a divorce lawyer, a professor of human development, a psychotherapist and a divorce coach.

The Cornell University professor recommends that you look back at your relationship before deciding to end it legally and finally. If you’re not in couples’ counseling, ask yourself: Why aren’t we seeing a marriage counselor?

He says few couples try counseling before divorcing, but considering the importance of the relationship and the split, couples should give counseling a try before heading to court.

He also recommends asking yourself why you fell in love in the first place. Think back to those glorious, golden early days of your relationship and remember why you fell for your partner. Then think about when and how the relationship began to unravel. Reflection on both positives and negatives can sometimes show a person that the time for divorce has not truly arrived.

We will take a look at more questions experts say you ought to ask yourself before deciding on divorce. If that decision has been made, however, it’s time to ask yourself about the kind of family law attorney who would be best for you. For those with children, it makes sense to have an attorney with a track record of protecting kids’ best interests in negotiations, hearings and all court proceedings involving the other party.